News from the Interim Director
How do you teach your kids to be “in the world, but not OF the world?” Would you agree with me that you love your kids more than life itself and you would do anything to make them happy?
When I have asked parents, “Would you give your life for your child?” I have never met one parent that says, “Let me get back to you on that.” Parents typically love their kids and want the very best for them. I am guessing that is why they are here at our school.
But loving kids and wanting to give them the very best doesn’t mean giving them everything. It is ok for them to hear the word “no”. Set boundaries. Mean what you say. If you don’t, kids learn very quickly how to manipulate.
One of the hardest lessons I have learned about this, that I will NEVER forget, is when we had foster kids. It was Christmas time and for dinner, I was serving green beans as the vegetable. We encouraged our kids to take “polite bites”. Ricky was six and he wasn’t going to try that one green bean if it was the last food on the face of the earth. I made the mistake of saying, “if you don’t try it, you are not going to see Santa tonight.” It didn’t work. He would still not try it. And because I have learned to not go back on my word, I left him at home with my husband. That was five years ago, and it still makes me tear up. BUT, he never questioned me at my word from then on.
It is ok to look at how you parent and ask a trusted, good friend, “Do I mean what I say with my kids? Do my kids manipulate me? Are my kids spoiled?”
The patterns you set now, are patterns that will continue to manifest as they grow older. Stand firm. Set boundaries. Love unconditionally. Ask Jesus for help. Pray.
We have amazing parents. I see it in the hallway every day. I see it when parents pick up kids. I see it from the grandparents. Keep looking up and know you are doing a great job!
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